If you are serious about finding out if and how someone feels about you, you can casually encourage them to express their feelings for you in other ways:
Mention in conversation that you really want to see a film that’s coming to the cinema. This will give the person a clue as to where you can be invited.
Let the object of your affection know that you are single and ready for a new relationship. For example: “I haven’t been on a date in a couple of months.”
Mention in the conversation that you would agree to a proposal to go out together. For example: “I would totally go to that exhibition with you.”
Avoid mixed signals on your part.
If the person is giving signals, but you are not sure if they mean mutual sympathy
Sometimes hints and non-verbal signs can be quite difficult to figure out, even if they are constant. Did she call me for a quiz with her friends because she wants to spend time with me or because I’m good at the topic? Does he smile constantly when he meets me because he likes me or because that’s his way of interacting with everyone? Suddenly all these signs of mutual sympathy exist only in my head?
I would like to give some instruction on what to do to understand everything “on the shore”, but, unfortunately, there are no such instructions. Lists “she twirls a lock of hair and, therefore, loves you” have nothing to do with life.
What can you do? Wait for moments until it’s clear to you whether it’s a crush or love, and think about how you’ll even understand it. Or try to broadcast your feelings in words and actions and look at the situation.
If you want to be more proactive, try probing the ground in the following ways:
Ask interesting questions more often. For example, “What was your favourite childhood activity?” or “What is one thing you can’t imagine your day without?” This allows you to move to the next level of communication, get to know each other better, and pay close attention to how the other person reacts to you and what you say.
Give your phone number in a casual way. For example, recommend a film or book and then say, “We can exchange phone numbers or add each other on social media. It would be really interesting to know your opinion after watching (reading) it.”
Invite the person to a meeting or party where a large group will gather. This is much easier than asking someone out on a one-on-one date. And if the object of your affection will try to spend all the time with you, even among crowds of people – most likely, your feelings are mutual.
