2. Show flexibility and be realistic
Research by psychologist Raymond Nee of the University of Houston shows that realistic and flexible expectations lead to greater satisfaction and longer lasting relationships. Whereas believing in a “fate-destined” partner who is either made for you or not is less likely to lead to a long-term union.
Being realistic means realising that perfect relationships don’t exist and there will inevitably be challenges to overcome. And being flexible means staying open to change and being able to adapt to new situations.
Be ready to accept that your partner is not perfect and from time to time he will disappoint you. And also learn to adjust your expectations if changed circumstances require it.
3. Practise self-reflection and self-awareness
Self-reflection means that you regularly take time to analyse your own thoughts, feelings and actions. And self-awareness suggests that you are aware of your needs and wants. Research links both to a high degree of satisfaction in relationships.
When we engage in self-awareness, it’s easier to understand how our emotions, thoughts, and actions affect our relationships and what expectations we associate with them. And when we understand our needs and wants, it’s easier for us to make those expectations clearer and more realistic. Through self-reflection and self-awareness, we can see how to change our relationships for the better.
Learning how to manage your expectations is essential to a healthy relationship that you will enjoy. By communicating openly and honestly with your partner, staying in the real world and in touch with yourself, you can avoid disappointment and enjoy your union with another person.
